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Mar 21Liked by Kathryn Flett

I don't think I'll ever forget what you have written here, how you have written it. The stark beauty, narrating something so raw and harrowingly awful. Bloody hell, it knocked the breath out of me. I can't begin to comprehend the depth of your loss. I'm so sorry.

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Mar 21Liked by Kathryn Flett

What an extraordinary piece about maternal grief. Absolutely devastating. So sorry for your loss Kathryn.

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Mar 21Liked by Kathryn Flett

This beautiful, devastating piece of writing will stay with me forever. Thank you for sharing it with the world. Sending love and courage as you navigate the road ahead. Jackson was very lucky to have you as his mum xx

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Jul 17Liked by Kathryn Flett

This writing brought me to tears. A friend of mine lost her only son when he was out celebrating his degree pass. He fell into the path of a car. So sorry for your loss. Please give your remaining son extra love ❤️

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Jun 22Liked by Kathryn Flett

As a mother of a much loved son with a buzzcut - kind, funny, creative, good looking and of similar age to your beloved Jack - I can only imagine your grief, Kathryn, and feel some of it through your beautiful writing. It hurts my heart and will make me hold mine even closer when he tries to wriggle from my clutches. I promise to appreciate his time left with me all the more in honour of Jack. I will bring a trip to Barcelona B and I have talked about forward, because I can't bear the idea of not living every moment of joy with him. Words can not express how sorry I am Kate. Last time you and I spoke we were in a queue at Mike Nelson's opening. I moved to Hastings in January and do hope we will meet up at some point. I wont be here for Jackofest but wish you and golden, stardust Jack every success with it and much love. X Lucy

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Jun 20Liked by Kathryn Flett

I sadly know what you are feeling as I lost my 30 year old daughter to diabetes a few years ago. She was blonde blue eyed and funny and beautiful, leaving an eight year old son behind.

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Jun 18Liked by Kathryn Flett

Beautiful son. Beautiful mother. You are in many people’s hearts ♥️

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Apr 27Liked by Kathryn Flett

Thank you for sharing. Navigating the devastating loss of our beautiful son Josh 19/11/2023 forever 20 😪💔😪💔

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Devastating. I’m so sorry, Kathryn. Tears in my eyes reading your vivid portrait of life with and without your oldest son. It’s wonderful that you’re remembering Jackson through music. I can only imagine how much you must miss him.

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Apr 21Liked by Kathryn Flett

This has deeply moved me, as a mother. I can't imagine your pain, but your positive outlook on life despite your grief is inspiring. I'm so sorry for the loss of Jackson, the world is a worse place without him from what you have shared xxx

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I'm so desperately sorry. Words can't begin to describe such a loss. Sending love to you in the new life that's been forced upon you. x

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Apr 20Liked by Kathryn Flett

Saw this article on DM today and searched to find your substack. I hope you use it more and journal this journey into grief and learning to live with the unimaginable, it could help a lot of people cope, voices and stories for this are always whitewashed over, its not like the movies and soaps where the credits roll and the next episode is all fuzzy and melancholy with everyone moving on with their lives. learning how to live in this face of such grief is the most difficult part of the human experience. Yes of course he is still with you, and also on a real life down to the cellular level part of you. RIP Jackson

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Apr 20Liked by Kathryn Flett

Thank you for such a wonderful piece of writing. And I too lost my beautiful son in a bizarre accident, in 2021. And I'm still here, that's the good news. The bad is, I'm still here and he's not. But, like you, I talk to him every day, think of him every day and he will always be with me, as your son will with you. Sending you so much love.

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Apr 23Liked by Kathryn Flett

The Compassionate Friends were wonderful and gave me so much support. You are not alone, we are in a club that no one wants to join but knowing that there are others can make it a tiny bit easier. Hope this helps...https://www.tcf.org.uk/

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TCF are one of JackoFest’s charity partners (the other is The Good Grief Project) and stand to gain if we make a profit in ticket sales. I have not needed their help personally however I know they do great work. And they posted this link on their facebook page, too

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Mar 28Liked by Kathryn Flett

❤️ love and thanks to you for this.

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Absolutely beautiful... and devastating - and, as with all your writing, incredibly deep and insightful. Jackson lives on with everyone who knew him and we will be there to celebrate that at Jackofest and to support these essential charities xxx

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Mar 21Liked by Kathryn Flett

Ah Kathryn. I think I've been reading you since you were indeed building those cells that became Jackson. I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful young man xx

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